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The Donnarama Dishes Blog

Updated: 2 days ago

Confused frustration over what to eat, to eat healthfuly
What the??!!

{Channeling the old Andy Rooney segment where he went off on something which irked him in the last few minutes of 60 Minutes...}


Is anyone else out there having a bear of a time figuring out how to eat healthfully? I'm not talking about cutting out (or lowering) processed foods from your diet -- that seems to be something which pretty much everyone agrees is a good idea. I'm talking about the massive amounts of conflicting information out there right now, and, even more so, over the course of my life. Don't get me wrong, I know that science leads to revised guidelines, but SHEESH!


Every morning, I wake up and find myself in a state of confused irritation. Should I eat breakfast whether I am hungry or not? What should I eat? When should I eat it? Do I need to drink a glass of lukewarm water even before my typical morning routine (of coffee before all, which works well for me)? Should I feel guilty having a rice cake with banana and peanut butter? What about eggs and (gasp!) a slice of sourdough toast? And, to complicate things, I detest yogurt (yes, I've tried all the types) and cottage cheese, and I don't do smoothies or make things from powders or mixes... You see my conundrum, right?


In my lifetime, dietary conventional wisdom has flipped and flopped, and flipped back again; and the newest healthy eating guidelines just confuse the issue for those who strive to eat healthfully (and maybe drop some weight)...


2026 Food Pyramid
2026 FDA Food Pyramid

Here are just a smattering of the conflicting dietary conventional wisdoms over the course of my life, which has led to my current state of frustration and confusion. I'm sure some of you can relate...


  • Eggs

    • One egg a day -- my grandmother's credo

    • No egg yolks (all that fat and cholesterol!)

    • Definitely don't have eggs without the yolk (the yolk is where are all the most important nutrients are!)

    • Eat mostly egg whites with some yolks (it's all about protein and this combination maximizes that while including the nutrients from the yolk but keeps the the fat and cholesterol down)

  • Oils/fats

    • Crisco, vegetable oil, and peanut oil are good for frying

    • Margarine should be used instead of butter

    • No hydrogenated fats, so lose the Crisco and the margarine

    • For neutral oils, chose canola -- it's so much better than the old standbys of peanut and vegetable oil!

    • Olive oil is where it's at, embrace the Mediterranean diet! (Note: except that it's not good for frying (low smoke point) and has a flavor, so it is not a replacement for any neutral oil)

    • Cook with bacon fat (and now, tallow)

    • Avoid animal fat -- high cholesterol (not the good kind) and calories

    • Grapeseed and safflower oils are great!

    • Only use single-process/expeller oils, regardless

    • Cook with coconut oil

    • Coconut oil is bad

    • Avocado oil is the best -- high smoke point, neutral flavor, the "good" fat (but very expensive)

    • Cook with ghee (over regular butter)

    • Only cook with organic oils and fats

  • Wine and dark chocolate

    • Flavonoids, baby!

    • Yeah, actually, even the recently touted one-glass-of red-wine-a-day credo is not good. You really shouldn't drink at all.

  • Nuts

    • Nuts are great --lots of protein

    • Peanuts are terrible for your gut and are fattening

    • Limit your nut intake as they have lots of fat and calories (now at the bottom of the food pyramid)

    • Snack (intermittently throughout the day) on nuts (preferably raw or dry roasted)

  • Fruits & Vegetables

    • Healthy, BUT fruit is high in carbs (sugar) so avoid if doing keto or Atkins

    • Don't eat too much fruit

    • Don't eat too much of the starchy veggies

    • Snack on fruit/ veggies -- don't worry about the calories because they have lots of nutrients

    • Don't snack on fruit, they have so much sugar and some are quite starchy

    • Only eat if you get organic (with exceptions)

    • An apple a day -- this one seems to have lasted better than most

    • High in fiber, so good

    • But also some are high in sugar, so bad

    • Berries -- high in nutrients, black and blueberries are super-foods in fact

    • Berries are high in sugar -- avoid

    • Dark leafy greens all day! (Don't worry that it can wreak havoc on your digestion or that it's bitter -- and don't sauce it too much!)

    • Bananas

      • Great for/as/with breakfast

      • Super high in sugar, avoid

      • Only eat later in the day

      • Eat, but best with nutsĀ (something about absorption)

  • General eating habits, diets

    • Avoid carbs and all sugars if you want to lose weight, including beans and lentils, and whole grains, etc.

    • Mediterranean diet (which has carbs) -- is a healthy diet and can lead to weight loss. Avoid red meat.

    • Keto & Atkins -- Don't worry about cholesterol and fat, and eat anything protein you want (hello, bacon and burgers!), but avoid carbs (including in fruit and starchy veggies).

    • Eat only when you're hungry

    • Eat regularly (small portions) throughout the day, even when not hungry

    • Intermittent fasting is a great way to lose weight

    • It's all about the calories (keep low), but be sure to take in massive amounts of protein (typically high in calories), so supplement with protein shakes (but don't consume processed foods)

    • Don't eat processed foods, but a protein shake/bar is the most efficient way to make your nutritional goals (which are processed)

    • Don't eat less than 3-4 hours before you go to sleep

    • Have a light snack if you can't sleep

  • Meat

    • Standard growing up

    • Pork was lumped with red meat, but became the "white meat"

    • Avoid animal proteins

    • Red meat now at top of new FDA food pyramid, so bring it on!

  • Milk

    • Whole milk is good -- the norm when I was young

    • Drink skim -- don't need the fat

    • Drink low-fat -- skim takes out important stuff and has higher sugar

    • Whole-fat dairy is the best for you

  • Breakfast

    • Most important meal of the day -- don't skip it!

    • Jump starts your metabolism

    • It's a myth that it's important. Eat when hungry and don't worry about skipping breakfast

    • Eat protein for breakfast -- force yourself; avoid carbs

    • Have fruit for/with breakfast, you need the nutrients

  • Cheese

    • High in fat, avoid

    • Good source of calcium and protein (top of the food pyramid); snack on it

    • Certain cheeses should be avoided

  • Water

    • Drink a percentage of your body weight to stay hydrated (a LOT!)

    • Your body will tell you when it needs water -- just listen to it

    • Drink only warm water

    • Drink water before meals to lower your appetite

    • Drink water as soon as you wake up -- with lemon, with vinegar, with mint, etc.

  • If you wake up hungry, that means your cortisol is working; if you don't, better work on it -- and here's a supplement or 20 to take.


Shall I go on (you know I could!)? Holy crap, every day I feel like a deer in headlights! Do I eat breakfast? Are homemade sourdough crackers with some cheddar cheese a good snack? Or do I need to stick with a variety of nuts so I consume a variety of nutrients? Or are celery sticks and carrots (without hummus or dip) the only healthy snacks?


With the plethora of conflicting advice, how are we supposed to know what to do? (Seriously.) Plus, what works for some absolutely doesn't work for others -- body chemistry, life stage, medical conditions, and genetics all play important roles in determining what works for whom. And so it is my hope that scientists will invent a test which can determine, based on DNA/ body chemistry (?), a diet roadmap for each of us. While there are some devices already on the market which measure your metabolism and when you're burning calories (which dictates when you should eat), we need more than that, because that can't dictate WHAT you should eat. And we need this personalized dietary roadmap to be affordable and accessible.


Until the time comes when each of us knows (based on science) what diet is best suited to our specific bodies, I suggest we continue to follow the paradigm: exercise regularly and everything in moderation. Because for a live-to-eat not eat-to-live kind of person, life is simply not worth living without a good mix of foods and flavors, and occasions over which to share them.


(Rant over. For now.)

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